Here is a helpful post about how to end things with someone. This is for those situations where it is not a break-up but you can no longer comfortably disappear off the face of the earth. Start with
these nine words: “I don’t think we
should see each other anymore.” Say this immediately after saying hello so
there is no confusion that you may be calling to plan a date.
Then throw her/him a bone.
Say something like, “I really do like you.” Follow this with a “But Statement.” The but statement gives everyone something to
feel good about (the phrase that precedes the But) and still allows you tell
the harsh truth; “but I’m just not
feeling it.” My rule on those “But Statements” is that it will negate everything that immediately preceded
it. As my girlfriend says: Damn the
but.
After you clarify that casual movie watching (my blog metaphor for sex) is for sure not on the
table, and in the middle of the other person jabbering about their own feelings on the situation,
get yourself off the phone as quickly as possible.
Ending the conversation with 100% honesty is really important and the other person should thank you for managing their expectations so clearly, yet gently. Something like, “I’ve got to
run, I’ll call you later. Actually, no,
I probably won’t.”
Six minutes and six seconds later, you will be back in the
game. Without the recipe for delicious
cookies that were delivered warm to your
house last week.
Good luck with your calls!
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