As I mention in many of my date posts, I
pay for the first date. Why is
this? Mainly it is because I am quick
with my credit card and none of my dates has protested overmuch.
When I got ready to pay on my last date, he
asked me if paying made me more comfortable. I admitted it did, but what I left out is that
paying allows me to feel more comfortable with never contacting the man again. Paying for a date is a power play. It also signifies that I can actually pay for
my own dinner/drinks/movie/bowling/brunch/triptothezoo. That way it is clear that if he has his ish
together I am not in it for the money, and if he does not have his ish together
and has saved up for our date all week, he can blow the money at the bar on
Friday and drown his sorrows when I do not call him back.
Whoever pays for the first date has the
control. The other person is immediately
in a bit of a debt to the pay-er
So.
Gentlemen. Pay for the date. Do
not protest, just get the server’s attention and make sure the tab goes on your
credit card. If you get there first,
give your card to the server so the bill comes right to you and there is no
question that you are taking care of it. I have gone out on second dates when the man paid for the first. I have not gone out on second dates when I paid for the first.
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